“What really matters for success, character, happiness, and lifelong achievements is a definite set of emotional skills – your EQ — not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.”— Daniel Goleman
Look around you and observe the behavior exhibited by people who seem to have it all. Are they stressed? Are they angry, frustrated, and tired all the time? Or do they present a calm and collected persona that helps them manifest an image of confidence and competence?
Emotional intelligence or EQ is an essential component of social intelligence and refers to a person’s ability to identify emotions, understand them, and then use or redirect them to their advantage.
Think about it; who do you admire most at work or even in your social circle? Next, try and analyze what do you admire the most about them? Their intelligence? Poise? Or perhaps it’s the way they carry themselves in difficult circumstances? How they handle even the toughest of situations with grace and also find the time to help others.
All this comes under the purview of emotional intelligence. The ability to read a situation accurately and respond in the right way requires us to stay calm under stress and think clearly when everything seems to be going haywire.
That’s exactly why emotional intelligence is crucial for success in today’s world. A high IQ or intelligence quotient can only take you so far; it’s your ability to build personal connections, arouse admiration, and command respect that sets you on the path to success.
So, is emotional intelligence something that you are born with or is it something that can be learned? Well, while some people are naturally intuitive, confident, and vivacious, the good news is that with a positive outlook and persistence, you can get there, too.
If you’re wondering how to improve your emotional intelligence, a good place to start would be to look at some common habits shared by people with high EQ.
There’s no need to go scouring through endless stacks of self-help books as here are 7 powerful habits exhibited by people with high emotional intelligence:
1. The Ability to Empathise with Others:
People with high EQ or emotional intelligence are not just great at interpreting and regulating their own emotions; they also excel at recognizing emotions in others.
First of all, they are great listeners; they not only listen to others but also pay proper attention to them, observe any signs of distress, and analyze how they are feeling. This allows them to identify and empathize with them while lending a shoulder for support.
So, we see that emotional intelligence is not limited to just interpreting your own emotions; it also involves being able to identify the emotions of others around you. This ability empowers emotionally-intelligent people to realize when a friend, co-worker, or family member is upset or going through a crisis and offer advice or sympathy. This skill, in turn, helps them forge long-lasting relationships and bonds.
2. Great Social Skills:
Man is a social animal and knowing how to conduct yourself well in different social situations is another key skill that differentiates those with high emotional intelligence from the rest.
As people with high EQ are so attuned to their own emotions, they can similarly read the vibe of a place or a group of people and adjust their behavior accordingly.
Their ability to read a room also helps them avoid making social gaffes as they know when to speak and when to curb their tongue and stay silent. This helps them build healthy and sustainable relationships with friends, family, and colleagues and empowers them to succeed in life.
3. A High Level of Self-Awareness:
One of the most common human behaviors is to manifest your emotions onto others. For instance, you may feel irritated with your boss or co-worker on a certain day and even have a confrontation with them.
However, upon assessing your behavior later, you may regret it or even feel ashamed at the way you acted. You may wonder, what made you lose your cool that day? In the case of people with high emotional intelligence, they think first and take action accordingly.
If they feel angry, distressed, or puzzled, they stop to think and try to find the root cause of their emotions? What is the real cause behind their anger? Is their boss being unfair to them, or are they just having a bad day? Are their emotions being triggered by something that happened at home or on their way to the office?
People with high EQ trace their emotions to the source and try to resolve the root cause of all their problems. This way they avoid acting impulsively and do not let emotions rule their life or dictate their actions.
4. Planning for Long-Term Success:
Another characteristic of those who possess a high level of emotional intelligence is their patience.
As human beings traversing a widely-changing world, we often suffer bouts of insecurity and impatience that can spur us to make rather short-sighted decisions. However, those with a high emotional quotient inculcate patience and take steps for long-term success.
5. Working the Power of Positivity:
It’s a well-established fact that positivity attracts success. Those who can control their own emotions can also channel the power of positivity to generate positive outcomes in their life.
For example, when confronted with a problem, they focus on the positive and seek to find a solution, instead of fixating on the negative and complaining. This allows them to solve their problems instead of being overwhelmed by them.
6. Striking the Perfect Balance between Work and Life:
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy and those with high emotional intelligence don’t let work take over their life.
Merely grinding away at work does not guarantee success, rather the ability to balance work while pursuing an active social life alongside your hobbies or passions contributes to the comprehensive development of your personality and helps you define the path to success.
7. Confident Body Language:
How does one exude confidence? Through one’s body language, of course.
You can identify emotionally intelligent people by the way they carry themselves. The shoulders are straight, and the head is held high; they are also not afraid to make eye contact and smile.
Those with high EQ also radiate surety and firmness of purpose with everything they do. Staring from a firm handshake that impresses people at job interviews to excelling at office meetings, conferences, and even social gatherings, they command attention wherever they go.
The above points highlight the prominent habits of people who possess high emotional intelligence. One can almost say that their incredible success is a testament to the power of self-control.
While we may not be able to control everything in life, the power to regulate
your behavior and keep your emotions in check lies within you. It is the pathway that leads to the attainment of high emotional intelligence and allows you to take charge of your life and destiny.
So, learn from these habits of emotionally-intelligent people and see the changes in your life. The journey may be strenuous and long, but the rewards will be worth it, I promise.